In her 40’s, Robin Rinaldi makes the decision that will change her & her husband’s lives. When her husband decides to get a vasectomy while Robin wanted children she proposes an arrangement. They would have an open marriage where she would move to her own place and see whomever she wants during the weekdays, and return to her loving husband at their home on the weekends. Her yearlong journey helps Robin discover many things about herself with the hopes of seeking some peace and clarity.
This memoir may be one of the most raw books I’ve read in a long time. Rinaldi is completely honest with her feelings and extremely explicit in detailing her sexual journeys with the different men and women she meets. Some of the experiences that she recounts feels so unbelievable that at times I forgot this was a non-fiction book. My heart went out to her husband who, with all their marital issues aside, must not have had an easy time during this year that his wife was exploring other options. I found her reactions to how he was handling their unusual arrangement a bit skewed, given that it was her idea to begin with, yet honest. The circumstances that Rinaldi and her husband were in would not be an easy black & white answer to resolve anything, and she was very upfront about her decisions and thoughts even if it may not shine the best light on her.
I struggled with how to review this book. Whether one agrees or disagrees with the choices that the author made, the storytelling of her experiences is well written. Many people may read bios of celebrities and their scandalous exploits yet still enjoy the book even if they don’t necessarily relate or agree to it. I commend Rinaldi for showing such openness and vulnerability in this memoir, especially with a subject that has not been explored much.