Illustrating real-life stories about sexual abuse and harassment, Stoian brings to light the reality (and commonality) of these occurrences among women and men. Told with only a few pages per story, this collective memoir is eye-opening and a reminder to all that these types of actions are not “a compliment”.
I had an idea what this graphic novel would be about based on the title, which is what caught my attention to begin with, but I was not prepared for how much this would take my breath away. It was eye opening to see all the different experiences told so openly and factually. It feels so important that the wide range of types of harassment were included so all of us who have experienced any form of this can feel that 1) it wasn’t right, and 2) we’re not alone.
For me, this was such a compelling yet upsetting graphic novel. It’s upsetting because how often have we share stories with friends about some “weird” incident on, say, the subway and we are both horrified yet trying to laugh it off. But those stories then open up to everyone else contributing their own experiences of creeps. This exchange happens all the time. It made me angry to see these stories of what so many people have lived through in similar, or varying ways. I loved that it included stories from males as well, because so often the conversation is about female sexual harassment but we forget that it can go both ways too.